That “stay positive” mantra is cute but it ain’t realistic. Constant positivity is a form of avoidance, and not a valid solution to your problems. Sometimes life is fucked up, and the healthiest thing your ass could do is admit it. And I understand that you have to stay positive in order to receive the benefit in “shitty situations”. I’m referring to those who use it all the time in order for them to not confront the real problem at hand. Problems do not solve themselves by you “staying positive”. Stop trying to avoid the issue and deal with it head on because the longer you wait, the longer whatever you’re running from will be an issue.
To everyone that’s wronged me even when I was right to them, I forgive you. Even if you aren’t sorry. My heart is happy, regardless. I wish you well and I pray karma doesn’t do too much damage to you even though you deserve whatever comes your way.
You cause pain to the people you outgrow, when you stay attached to them.
Emotional intelligence. Those who lack it see it as an oxymoron. Maybe a lot of men haven’t been taught how to practice emotional intelligence. But caring for others should make you curious to learn. If how another person feels, perceives your actions, expresses themselves, etc. Never crosses your mind, you don’t care about them. It’s not up to a grown woman to teach you, a grown man, how to be a considerate human being. Unless she’s a mother figure to you. And a mother figure is just that. Don’t impose that role on a friend or significant other. Do your own work yourself and come back when you are able and willing to meet someone halfway. Otherwise, care enough to let it go. But I guess being perceptive enough to assess yourself and take those steps requires a degree of emotional intelligence. It’s emotionally and sometimes physically draining to do the thinking for two people. It’s an undue burden but so many men expect it.
#beingawomantaughtme there’s no one way to be a woman. The term “real woman” is a real man’s imagination.
Love requires vulnerability. You truly have to give the other person the ability to hurt you IF you want to connect with them on a level beyond the superficial. The only thing you can do is work on your discernment and curate a list of deal-breakers to lessen your chances of getting burned. But ultimately you have to be vulnerable. Heartbreak is ultimately inevitable though, and wolves in sheep’s clothing are everywhere. This is life.
Parents will “protect” their daughters from men they allowed their son to grow up to be. We will always have to teach our daughters to be careful of men if we do not teach our sons how to treat women. While giving your daughter a crash course on “how to behave” in order to not be raped by men teach your sons about consent and they’re not entitled to a woman’s body!
Sidebar: People don’t want to teach accountability. They’d rather accept that people are evil and teach others to avoid them. Makes me sick.